- May 17, 1933 - March 18, 2017
- Melrose, Massachusetts
of Paul's Passing
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Framingham, MA 01701
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“Lois, please accept our deepest sympathy. Phyllis andI were Shocked to hear about Paul's passing. We will always have fond memories of the two of...Read More »
1 of 8 | Posted by: Peter Bicchieri - Medford, MA
“I am so sorry for your loss! Never a good time to say goodbye!
2 of 8 | Posted by: Janine Fortini - Wakefield, MA
“Very sorry for your loss.Love,Michael Conti
3 of 8 | Posted by: michael conti - Friend
“Dear Lois and Family,We are so sorry for the loss of your dear husband, Paul. Our sincerecondolences to you.Gert & Ronnie Litsky
4 of 8 | Posted by: Gert Litsky - Delray Beach, FL
“Paul is someone that will be greatly missed with deep fondness and love. He was so ready to lend a helping hand and to be the friend you needed. We...Read More »
5 of 8 | Posted by: Janet & Frank Vaglica - Danville, NH
“Paul you were one of the most amazing person I have ever met, even though you were sick and in pain, you always wanted to make sure everyone else was...Read More »
6 of 8 | Posted by: Donna Wade - Malden, MA - Friend
“My Deepest sympathy to all,I feel very Blessed to have had the pleasure of spending these past 17 months getting to know Paul..He to me was such a...Read More »
7 of 8 | Posted by: Carrie Amaral - Malden, MA
“The Gately Family and Staff wish to express our sincere sympathy to you. It is our hope that we may be able to make a difficult time more bearable....Read More »
8 of 8 | Posted by: John W. Gately, John H. Gately & Fred Sprague
Paul R. McNamara, of Melrose, died at the Melrose Wakefield Hospital on March 18, 2017 at the age of 83.
Paul was raised in Roxbury and served in the United Sates Air Force for 8 years until he was honorably discharged on June 19, 1959.
In the 1980s, Paul performed engineering work on the Patriot missile defense system at Raytheon. This defensive missile system was first used in the first Gulf War in 1990 to protect Israel, Saudi Arabia, and US troops from missiles launched by Saddam Hussein. Paul was very proud of the work he performed at Raytheon.
When he was 56 years-old, a time when most men his age were thinking about retirement, Paul attended a trade school in Barre, Vermont to learn how to engrave headstones through sandblasting. His classmates were all recent high school graduates, but Paul still fit in and learned how to perform cemetery lettering and gravestone engraving. Paul always had an interest in stones and granite. After 6 months of schooling, Paul graduated and opened his own monument company with his wife, Lois, on Eastern Avenue in Malden. They operated the company for 10 years. Lois did the selling and Paul was the craftsman, sandblasting intricate flower designs, Hebrew lettering, and Saints on the monuments. One day on vacation in Maine while reading The Boston Globe, Paul saw some of his work in a photograph on the front page. It was a black slanted gravestone with a picture of a Saint and a rose that Paul had engraved onto a gravestone.
Paul's work was always precise and accurate. He even took a Hebrew class from a Rabbi at a temple in Malden so that we would know how to properly engrave Hebrew lettering and words on Jewish gravestones. Paul, an Irish Catholic, excelled in the class while his Jewish wife, Lois, could barely keep up with him.
In 2005, Paul and Lois moved to Florida and lived there for about 5 years. While in Florida, Paul got his real estate license and began selling condos with Lois. They were the "condominium kings."
This past year was very difficult for Paul. He was diagnosed with a rare form of lymphoma in May 2016 and fought valiantly to try to beat it so that he could continue to watch his grandsons grow up. He was a very proud grandpa! But, the chemo and treatment took its toll on him. He continued to attend and participate in his beloved-AA meetings. In fact, he celebrated his 38th anniversary in AA on July 10, 2016, although he could barely speak, was very weak from the chemo, and was down to about 100 pounds. Through it all Paul never complained. He kept his sobriety and continued to feel immense pride in being sober and in AA for 38 years.
Paul seemed to be beating the lymphoma. In fact, he and Lois went to Florida for 2 weeks in January. He felt good and they caught up with all their old Florida friends.
As recently as March 10th, Paul was told by his doctor at Dana Farber that his PET scan showed that the lymphoma was in remission, although he would have to continue to take oral chemotherapy drugs for the rest of his life. But, on Wednesday, March 15th, Paul's health began to really fail. He could barely walk on his own. And, sadly, on Saturday, March 18th Paul's long struggle with lymphoma ended.
Paul was kind, generous, goodhearted, and a man of integrity and pride. Simply put, Paul was "the salt of the Earth." Paul was a wonderful, caring, doting husband, father and grandfather. He had a terrific sense of humor. Paul will be missed by all whom he graced with his presence.
Paul was the beloved husband of Lois A. (Goldberg) Karp for 33 years. Loving father of Kathleen Saviano & her husband Lou of NH. Stepfather of Debra Soucy & her husband Robert of NH and Jeffrey Karp & his wife Heather of W. Newbury. Cherished grandfather of Jonathan, Alicia, Louie, Matthew, Peter and Jakob. Caring brother of Joseph McNamara and the late Bernard McNamara, James McNamara, Margie Grasso and Katherine McNamara. Visiting hours will be held at the Gately Funeral Home, 79 W. Foster St., Melrose on Friday, March 24th from 3:30-5:30PM with a funeral service to follow at 5:30PM. Relatives & friends respectfully invited to attend. Burial will be private. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the American Cancer Society, 30 Speen St., Framingham, MA 01701.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.