Paul A. Dotoli

  • Born: November 28, 1956
  • Died: May 11, 2020
  • Location: Malden, Massachusetts

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Melrose, MA 02176

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Paul Dotoli, age 63, of Malden, died suddenly on Monday, May 11, 2020 in his home after a long battle with multiple medical conditions. Paul was born on November 28, 1956 and was the son of Arlene Dotoli and the late Arthur Dotoli. Paul grew up in Melrose and graduated from Melrose High School in 1973 before moving on to serve in the United States Army from 1974 to 1977. Paul then made his career as a licensed HVAC technician, most recently employed for many years at the VA Hospital in Jamaica Plain.

Paul was predeceased by his loving wife of 24 years, Beverly (Abriel) Dotoli (1957-1999), his father, Arthur Dotoli, sister Cheryl Dotoli Brown, and niece Melissa Brown LaCarbonara. He is survived by mother, Arlene Dotoli, brothers and sister-in-law Michael and Gail Dotoli of Manchester, NH, and Christopher Dotoli of Revere. He is also survived by son and son-in-law, Jason Paul Dotoli and Fernando Dotoli Prieto of Malden, daughter and son-in-law, Jennifer and Thomas Griffin of Saugus, as well as his beloved grandchildren Aiden and Landon Griffin.

Paul is also survived by several nieces and nephews, including Alexandria Cordiner, Amanda Dotoli, Stephanie Dotoli, Ralph Caracciolo, and Kristen Caracciolo-Lessard. Paul was also close to his cousin James Forbes of Tewksbury and best friend David Johnson, of Malden.

Paul was born into this world tough as nails. He was fearless, unapologetic, and never backed down. He spoke a raw truth and had a language of his own. He spoke his mind and never held back. For those who knew Paul, they would understand this and respect him for it. He made everyone he came across laugh hard because he would proudly say things that most people would not. Many would say Paul was a complicated guy, people would form their opinions one way or another, but the one thing I think most will remember him for is the way he would fight for his friends and his family. He had a great heart, and as he mellowed in recent years, people really got to see a part of him that we will never forget.

Due to COVID-19 social gathering restrictions and social distancing, there will be no viewing for Paul. There may be a private social gathering for family and friends to be determined at a later date. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donation can be made in Paul's honor to the Boston VA hospital to help and support the Boston VA Healthcare system. You may do this by visiting https://www.boston.va.gov/giving/donation_opportunities.asp.


Condolence & Memory Journal

Paul was a great person

Posted by Ray Wilder - Merrimac, MA - Family   July 28, 2020

To My Big Brother Jumbo;
My heart hurts that you had to be gone so soon! I wanted you to know how proud I was that you were doing so well with Jen & Jay, and being the Papa to Aidan and Landon, Hanging out for hours with Jay, Fernando, and Dan so much, and talking with my Steph when she was struggling! You would have been proud today My Big Brother, Just know you were with us all, and you were loved and missed! I will always love and respect you Jumbo, and I will ALWAYS MISS YOU! May you Rest In Peace My Big Brother and know you were always loved and you'll always be missed❤
Your Little Brother ~ Chris

Posted by Chris Dotoli - Revere, MA - Family   June 12, 2020

Back in the day, I spent lots of time with Paul at the bar at the Everett K of C. He was a real character. Its been a long time since those days. Im very sorry to hear of his passing.

Ralph Dumas

Posted by Ralph Dumas - Friend   June 07, 2020

Tiny you could break chops with the best of them lol but I never left your house and just days before this with out you saying alright I love ya brother!!! Love you to Paul RIP my friend Joe De.

Posted by Joe DeCroteau - Melrose, MA - Friend   May 20, 2020

My sincere condolences to the Family, I worked with Beverly years ago and knew Paul through my Sister Bevely, she was his "Tax Girl" as he always called her....He will be missed for his humour and sincerity....Prayers and Blessings...

Posted by Mary Laughton. (Dorman) - Peabody, MA - Friend   May 20, 2020

There were times when Paul and Michael would get into some kind of a scuffle and my Sister would call me to come over the house and straighten things out beteween the two of them,but as time went on i received no more calls and i only saw Paul at family occasions the last at a remeberence dinner for my Mother and he told me he wasn't feeling that well Paul was tough as nails and walked a rugged road, so rest in peace kid .
Uncle Sonnyh

Posted by SONNY(UNCLE) BINDA    May 19, 2020

Paul, God Bless you. It has been so long since we have seen or talked to each other. Your passing was not a shock to me as our mutual friends kept me in the loop about your health. My heart was broken for you. Our relationship was complicated, crazy but sad. It was a life of he said she said but really it was nothing. You were a good guy, a good father and a great brother to Mike, Cheryl and Chris. They love you so much. I love you too. I really love you. I know your heart. I was there for you when Bev died. I wish I could have been more accepting.
My friends have told me you ask for me often. I love hearing about you.
We could not figure it out in this lifetime but perhaps the next.
You are with Cheryl who I pray for every day. I miss daddy and they are better off with you. You are my brother. You always will be. Rest in peace. We love you.

Posted by Laurie Orender - Sister   May 14, 2020

Worked in Engineering at JP with Paul, great guy. Sorry for the loss.

Posted by David Burns - Coworker   May 14, 2020

Uncle Paul, I will always love you.
Everyone is hurting from your absence but I think we as a family can all find comfort in the fact that you are no longer suffering. I find peace knowing you are with my Mom, Sister, Papa, and Aunty Bev. It still doesn't seem real to me. It happened so fast. I will never forget those last conversations I had with you. We laughed, we talked about my mom and how much you missed her, we talked about how nice it was to be together. These were some of the happier conversations I've ever had with you. I'll hold them to my heart. You were a complicated man to say the least but a man who loved his family, loved his friends, and we all knew that, and we will never forget you.

Posted by Alexandria Cordiner - East Bridgewater, MA - Family   May 14, 2020

Dotoli family sorry for your loss thoughts and prayers are with u all during this difficult time god bless hugs

Posted by Kathy Graham - MELROSE, MA - Friend   May 14, 2020

I love you Paulie...Brothers Forever...No words...Heartbroken...R.I.P. my Brother...

Posted by Mike Dotoli - Manchester, NH - Brother   May 14, 2020


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